Amazing News with a FREE Gift!

Hello Family and Friends,

I pray this letter has reached you in great health and living the abundant life. I am writing you because we have made a connection and I have some Amazing News to share. Please take a moment to be updated on the Amazing News!

Since 2006, God and I have been quietly laying the foundation for Healing the Family Coaching. Now, our heart’s desire for me to serve the people of God in the capacity of a Coach has manifested. It is my profound pleasure to announce, Healing the Family Coaching, LLC is in full operation. Practically all of my life I have been a counselor to many, a mentor to a few, and a master encourager to all. In the process of being an encourager with many hats and titles, I developed a sincere love for coaching. Therefore, I set out to receive training and legitimize the natural skill set of coaching and counseling in 2013. Today, I have achieved that goal! I am in the final stages of receiving my Master’s Degree in Counseling and Coaching and my certification as an Advanced Life Coach through the Board of Christian Life Coaching.

What does this mean for you and your family?

The design of Healing the Family Coaching, LLC is to bring restoration to the family of God and your personal family. Healing the Family Coaching, LLC will provide coaching to Individuals, Pre-Marital couples, Married couples, and Families. The purpose of Healing the Family Coaching is to assist individuals in pursuing their goals and moving forward in life.

I want to share with you some of the great benefits of Christ-centered coaching. One major benefit of coaching is lasting transformation. It consists of gaining clarity about what you want, why you want it, and how to get it. Coaching creates that bridge to get you from where you are now to where you would like to go. You learn to set goals that move you beyond your expectations and this requires strategies and techniques that great coaching can provide, which you will have throughout your life. Coaching also gives you the time and space to overcome obstacles, explore and evaluate options, and provides the support, encouragement and motivation to change your life. 

You may know someone who would benefit from these services. For example, someone who has experienced or is about to experience a major life event (i.e. marriage, a new baby, new job, divorce, blended family, transitioning teens, etc.). In addition, coaching is perfect for individuals who are struggling to meet a goal or find their passion or purpose. It is also a marriage saver for couples (maybe empty nesters) who are looking for a way to avoid divorce. Finally, coaching is a great service for someone having trouble managing his or her salvation or growing in their spiritual walk.

If you know of anyone dealing with these situations, Healing the Family Coaching could be the answer.

My heart’s desire and passion is to see change happen in every life I am able to touch. I need you to help me touch as many lives as possible by telling people of the work I am doing. I need your support in spreading the word. Their location doesn’t matter. Coaching can be done via phone, email, webcam, or in person. You and anyone you know can click here to schedule a FREE 30-minute call. It is my pleasure to assist you.

Kingdom Blessings,


Demetrica M. Mathews, MA.

Advance Life Coach


Transparent: The Jacket…

I recently brought a jacket. It was the perfect purchase. It was on sale and it was something I always wanted. How could I go wrong? I put the jacket on in the presence of my daughter. She immediately said, “No!” It was not about the style of the jacket or the type of jacket, it was the fit, for her. It was actually the fit for me too. It was too small, LOL. For me, it was too small in the physical fit and it was too small in the style. I would have worn this jacket when I was much younger.

My style of dress had changed. I no longer could relate to the style the jacket represented. I wanted the jacket. It was something I wanted years back but could not afford. I realized it was time to let go. It was time to let go of the style and the hopes of me actually wearing a jacket like that. “I am too mature for this style,” I said to myself as I squeezed out of the jacket. This is when I realized God’s process of elevation. Continue reading

The Promise of A Mate…

As a Counselor, Coach, and Minster of the Kingdom of Heaven, I am often asked about the promise of a mate. There are so many single women and so many single men. I get it from both sides. So, I thought it would be nice to repost a blog I did some time ago on the Woman to Women blog. While this blog speaks directly to women, it is also applicable to men. My heart goes out to those who want to find love (I am one of them), but it is vital to have the right mindset.

“As I lay meditating on the love of God and the women of God who are longing for husbands and have asked me to pray for them; two things came to me.

 One: Many women are caterpillars in the cocoon asking for the benefits of a butterfly. They are just not ready! There is a time of preparation, yield to it. There is three seasons: a season of Education, Preparation and Presentation.butterfly-this-free-best-website_171277

Read: Esther Chapter 2

Two: Many women are hung up on the color of their husband (whether he is African America, Asian, Caucasian, Hispanic, etc.) Some women feel as though they must marry in their race to preserve their race, but here is what the Father said to me. “It is not our responsibility to preserve any race. It is our responsibility to persevere the essence of the human race, which is the soul. This is our foundational purpose here on earth.

 Matthew 19:6

“So they are no longer two, but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together, let no one separate.”

If you are hung up on race, let me tell you God has been mixing up the races for centuries. Take Esther. She was a Jew married to a Babylonian. God knows what He is doing. Don’t let race be a hang up because hang ups can be hindrances.  These type of stipulations will cause a delay in the presentation of the gift of your mate. Be open to whatever God gives. It will be the best no matter how it is packaged.”


Don’t Be Convinced!

Don’t be convinced by the whispering words of the adversary. He will tell you that you are not good enough, you don’t have enough knowledge, you are too this or too that. He will tell you it is because you don’t have the right body type or have the right color of skin. We were all created equal with special gifts purposed for the edification of the Kingdom of Heaven.

Don’t Be Convinced!

His words will even sound as if they are your own. He is clever, but he is a liar. He will tell you all of the reasons you have not succeeded. He will tell you that you will die, even when the word of God states you will not die but live and declare the works of the Lord (Psalm 118:17). God also promises to give you long life (Psalm 91:16). So, how could death as he speaks it belong to you?

Don’t Be Convinced!

Do you know the adversary of your soul has no power? Power is only given to us as ambassadors of the Kingdom of Heaven, not him. Did you know he only has one plan, for which he has been using from the beginning? His plan is to separate and divide. He knows there is power beyond measure in unity. The adversary subtracts and divides God adds and multiplies.

Don’t Be Convinced!

Did you know your simple faith in God renders him speechless? Your confession of faith gives him nothing to talk about. Do you know all you have to do is speak and he must obey? Resist the devil, speak faith, and he will flee. Don’t live in uncertainty. Know your God and the power He has given you. Live in confidence.

Don’t be Convinced!

I John 4:4 “Ye are of God, little children, and have overcome them: because greater is he who is in you, than he who is in the world.” Don’t be convinced of the whispering words of the adversary. Increase your faith in the impossible and change your life. No matter the whispering words of defeat, enticement to sin against God, or proclamations of death; don’t be convinced. Know your unwavering faith in the fact that God is and He is the rewarder of those who diligently seek Him moves God to assist you through life. Know your continued desire to seek after Him progresses your relationship with Him. Know the adversary lurks in dry land, but you are filled with living water, for which the adversary cannot stand against. Know you are a citizen of the Kingdom of Heaven.

Don’t Be Convinced. Activate your faith, decree and declare your trust in God and live.


By Faith You Shall Live…


Thank you for the seed…

To the single mothers who nurtured the seed he left behind, it is time to forgive and say Thank you. Here is my thank you…

Thank you for the seed you left behind for we have watered her, loved her, and patiently waited for her to bloom. Thank you for the seed you left behind, for we have broken every generational curse, grabbed hold of every generational blessing, bound up every sickness and disease of the mind, body, and spirit. Thank you for the seed you left behind, for we have taught her that she is a beautiful woman and the world is hers to roam.kee-in-blk-wht

Thank you for the seed you left behind, for we have taught her there is no mountain too high to climb, no river that will ever over take her. Thank you for the seed you left behind for the harvest is great and she yields fruit daily of love, excellences, kindness, wisdom, patience, forgiveness, stewardship, beauty, intelligence, power and authority. She gives even when she thinks she has no more to give. Her strength will last for generations. Thank you for the seed you left behind, for our heart fills with pride you can never share. We are loved, so filled with the love of a child who has grown into a woman of great convictions for the world’s needs. jam-keeWords can never express the GREATNESS you left behind. Nevertheless, my heart is compelled to THANK YOU, for had you never left your seed behind, we would have never been able to enjoy the AMAZING HARVEST for the labor we stayed and wanted to endure. Thank you! Thank you! Thank you for the seed you chose to leave behind, for she is now and forever will be an expression of love between we, God & Me. So sorry you missed the gift and blessing of the seed you left behind, YET, I am profoundly grateful!

Getting Present with My Writing

I love to write! This is an absolute. However, at this juncture of my life, I feel as if I am fighting against the tide and time to do what my heart loves. My time is not my own. I love to create words, find out what they really mean and understand how I am actually communicating. I have discovered that communication is inevitable and how it is done is highly important. You naturally do it often with words but there are times when you do it with action.

My hope is to continuously make myself aware of how I am communicating. How am I communicating with God, family & friends, with my readers and how I am communicating with my legacy? Yes. I believe it is possible to communicate with your legacy. My legacy will say something about me and I desire for it to be the right message. We are often so busy with life that we never think about what we will leave behind.

I desire to leave my writing behind, like many of the Philosophers, Maya Angelou, Shakespeare, and many others whose words are still impactful. Let us not leave a blank page behind. Fill all of the blank pages put before you. Make the time to write and be present. Be in the moment with your writing.


The feel of a Writer…


Being who I am…always wanting to be prepared, if I can. I wondered how I should start my new blog. I did the research and felt it best to come from the heart of who I am…a writer. So, the feel of a Writer, I discovered is amazing and forever creative. I think of writing all the time, every day in fact. I am constantly hoping for calm in my life so that I can bask in the place writers go to create, the mind and heart. To just stay there as long as I possibly can.

Do you wonder if you are a writer? If you are up to the task? You will know it because that is all you see when you look out in a crowd. Your next story emerges. The interest in words become overwhelming. Have you ever felt a pen in your hand even when there was not one? Well, I have. Writing is my purpose. It is my plan, the one given to me by God. Yes. I am one who believes deeply in the existence of God, Jesus, and the Holy Spirit. I am a Christian Author/Writer. It is an increasingly powerful thing to be able to dwell in the love of God and create.

Writing to me is an art of bring words together to create depth, meaning, and to connect with the soul. I do believe that words have power. They have power to create, destroy, build up, and tear down. They are all unique and possess amazing character. Bring them together is like conducting a symphony from the stance of a one man/woman band. The amazing connection of words is like the art placed on a canvas, the interpretation is up to the reader.

This is my perspective, my angle, my perception. This is my feel of being a writer.